How To Lift Someone’s Spirits When They’re Sad

Ever tried cheering someone up?

It can be hard, right? Cheering someone up when they’re down, lifting someone’s spirits. We’ve all been there, whether it’s a friend, a family member or a sibling. It can be awkward sometimes, we might not know what to say or what to do. But, the one thing we do know is that when someone who is close to us is hurt, we must alway be there for them. Ever had trouble about what to say to cheer someone up? Look no further, here at Fluentllife, we help you get a grip on everything you need to know to lift your conversational partner’s spirits in no time.

So, let’s start by taking a basic situation that all of us can relate to, and work from there.

*Your friend had applied to her dream college, but she did not get through*

Read on to find the overall flow, specific vocabulary, phrases, and expressions that can be used for an effective and fluent conversation on this topic. Right below is your guide to having an engaging conversation!

A conversation has specific phases that it goes through. Here is a quick look at we will teach you, to guarantee you a smooth conversation.   

Content : What is it that you are going to talk about

Use the ‘wh’ questions along with the keywords to help you put together the content.

  1. What was the incident that  made you sad? – Friend passed away, Parent’s divorce, College application rejection etc.
  2. When did the incident happen? – Yesterday, A few weeks earlier etc.
  3. How did it happen? – Car accident, Huge fight etc.
  4. How are you coping? – Well, Not very well, Terrible etc.
  5. How can someone help? – Talking, Distracting etc.

                                       Choosing Contextual Vocabulary

Choosing contextual vocabulary to suit the scenario you’re talking about can be very important when it comes to giving depth and clarity to what you’re trying to say, as well as piquing your partner’s attention. In this case, you’re trying to cheer someone up.

Listed below are a few words and phrases that could come in handy while elaborating on the topic.

  1. Optimism
  2. Sunshine
  3. Distractions
  4. Advice
  5. Consolation
  6. Coping mechanism
  7. Friendship
  8. Relationship
  9. Heartbreak
  10. Emotions
  11. Wisdom
  12. Insight
  13. Assistance
  14. Support
  15. Guidance

Similarly. given below are a few descriptive words and phrases that you could use to make your conversation more interesting!

  1. Overly optimistic
  2. Ray of sunshine
  3. Distractions from grief
  4. Helpful advice
  5. Healthy/Unhealthy coping mechanisms
  6. Strong friendship bond
  7. Supportive relationship
  8. Recovering from heartbreak
  9. Emotional support
  10. Insightful guidance
  11. Promising reassurances
  12. Active initiative to help
  13. Shoulder to cry on
  14. Listening to rants
  15. Strengthening bonds

Initiate the conversation by expressing your sympathy.

Hey, my mom told me that your college application didn’t get through, I’m really sorry to hear that.

Ask them if they would like to talk about it.

Do you want to talk about it? I’ve heard talking helps alleviate sadness, you might feel better.

If they agree, then proceed. Ask them what happened.

Tell me about it, what happened?

They may answer like this

I had worked really hard to get into X college, it had been my dream to get in there. I tried my best, I attended coaching classes and devoted two hours every day to entrance exam preparation. However, I guess with the board exams and the pressure of school, I slacked off towards the end, when it mattered the most. Now I am facing the consequences, my parents are so disappointed.

Try to answer based on the context given.

I’m so sorry to hear that, if you ever need any help, please don’t hesitate to ask. In the meantime, what are your plans for college? I think you should take a gap year and study for the exams again. You’re young, you’ve got your whole life ahead of you, it doesn’t matter if you lose this one year. Think about it like this, by sacrificing this one year, you’ll gain a lifetime of happiness and satisfaction. Just because you didn’t get through doesn’t mean you never will, and it’s better to take time and do something you love than directly go into something that you’re not passionate about. I will be with you every step of the way, to motivate and support you. I believe in you, you can do this, if you try harder, you will surely succeed.

Karen Niroshana

Author Karen Niroshana

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